Extra-ordinary gallant of a rifleman Jaswant Singh ji Rawat in Indo-China war

Millions salute to Captain Jaswant Singh Rawat who saved Tawang from Chinese attack. Only two more jawans were left to fight with Chinese troops when the three Indan jawans betrayed the orders of Indian Army to leave the posts on the call of former Prime minister Nehru. They remained there to fight with the Chinese troops as they had vowed before reaching at the battle front that they will kill at least twenty five jawans each before their death in the fight. When everybody else left, the only three jawans showed their acumen and courage and fought till the end of their lives. Jaswant Singh ji was the only one left at the end, who with the help of two local girls from Tawang named Noora and Sheela who used to bring rasad and food for him and also helped him finding the guns of the deceased Chinese troops, killed more than 300 jawans of China in that battle. Enemies could not understand that it was only one jawan who were fighting with them. He put lanterns in the necks of yaks and sheeps so that they could think that Indian jawans are present in large number. The brave heart then a Lans Nayak even after his death in that fight, still does his duty, gets promoted and takes leave. After his death the Chinese troops took his head with them. But after the fight was over, they themselves returned that with full dignity and told the stories of his gallant. Captain Jaswant Singh got Mahaveer Chakra for his bravery. There is a temple built in his honour there where every day he is provided tea, breakfast and meal. His uniform is pressed. His guns are cleaned.
========================================================== मित्रों यदि मेरा यह पोस्ट आपके दिल को जरा भी छू कर गुजरा हो तो मुझे विश्वास है कि आप मेरे इस प्रयास को लाइक दे कर मुझे और भी अच्छा लिखने की प्रेरणा, स्नेह और आशीर्वाद देंगे। आप अगर मुझे मेरे फेसबुक प्रोफाइल पर फॉलो करते हैं तो आपको मेरे शेयर किये सारे पोस्ट्स आपके नोटिफिकेशन्स में मिलते रहेंगे।

Feel proud to be called a Hindu

Being intellectual does not mean you have to oppose Hinduism or at least seem to be opposing Hinduism.  It also does not mean you have to appease people who practice a particular religion.  It also does not mean you have to blame RSS and its sister concerns for every nuisance in our country.  Well it's the Congress defined intellect that we were so far carrying.  Still the Media Houses have not left that mind set, I feel pity on them.  If someone talks about Ram, Geeta or Hinduism, he is communal.  These are their thoughts which were so far been tried to put inside the heads of every single Indian citizen.  We were made to think that we were doing crime by taking the name of Bhagwan Ram, Ram Temple, Hinduism, teaching the heroics of Bhagwan Rama or Sri Krishna in schools.  Every now and then people used to abuse or say any derogatory thing to the supporters of Hindu organizations at their will.  On Television channels, seven-eight self acclaimed intellectuals joined together and start attacking one hapless Hinduism supporter from all quarters as if they were there to rape a helpless lady having no body to save her from those devils.  The things had been distorted this much that even saying "Vande Mataram" was linked with communalism.  You have to sing only "Jan Gan Man" and not 'Vande mataram' due to appeasement of a particular class.

Well times have changed now and that has to be realized.  Earlier Hindus used to fear to express that he or she felt proud to be a Hindu as Hinduism is the only religion that teaches us to live with all others with love and in peace and to co-exist with others.  We don't call others Kaafir even if they don't belong to our religion. .

Feel proud to be Hindu and express this publicly.  Don't be ashamed in accepting this.  Love Ram, Respect Geeta.. and don't let others make jokes on our religion, Gods and Goddesses or religious books.  Keep our identity preserved and let all barriers of castes and regions be broken to unite all Hindus.   Only ask while you marry your sons or daughters whether the person to whom you are going to marry them is Hindu or not.  Whether they are compatible to each other or not.  Don't ask the castes.  Break the barriers of Castes and unite under one banner Hinduism.
========================================================== मित्रों यदि मेरा यह पोस्ट आपके दिल को जरा भी छू कर गुजरा हो तो मुझे विश्वास है कि आप मेरे इस प्रयास को लाइक दे कर मुझे और भी अच्छा लिखने की प्रेरणा, स्नेह और आशीर्वाद देंगे। आप अगर मुझे मेरे फेसबुक प्रोफाइल पर फॉलो करते हैं तो आपको मेरे शेयर किये सारे पोस्ट्स आपके नोटिफिकेशन्स में मिलते रहेंगे।

अभिमन्यु स्पीक्स - बीस हज़ार से ज्यादा पाठकों के आंकड़े को पार

प्रिय पाठकों,
मुझे आज यह देख कर अत्यंत हर्ष हो रहा है कि आखिर मेरी मेहनत धीरे धीरे रंग ला रही है।   मेरे इस ब्लॉग को पढ़ने व पसंद करने वालों की सूची में बीस हज़ार से ज्यादा लोगों का शामिल होना, और वो भी तब जबकि मैं काफी संजीदा विषयों पर लिखता आया हूँ, मुझे गर्व की अनुभूति देता है।   मैंने अपनी तरफ से भरपूर कोशिश की है कि मैं तात्कालिक विषयों पर लिखूं जो सीधा सीधा आम इंसानो से सरोकार रखते हों।  मैंने हर वर्ग के लोगों के लिए लिखने की कोशिश की है हालांकि युवा वर्ग के ऊपर लिखना मुझे ज्यादा पसंद है।   मित्रों, मैं पहले सिर्फ इंग्लिश में लिखता था, मगर बाद में मुझे ऐसा एहसास हुआ कि पाठकों के एक बड़े वर्ग तक शायद मैं पहुंच नहीं पा रहा और फिर मैंने निष्चय किया कि मैं इंग्लिश के साथ साथ हिंदी में भी लिखूंगा।   कहाँ पता था कि हिंदी लेखन मुझे इतना प्रिय होगा और पाठकों का इतना प्यार मिलेगा कि मेरे लेखन का बड़ा हिस्सा हिंदी में प्रकाशित होगा।  

आज औसतन पचास से सौ पाठक मेरे ब्लॉग को प्रति दिन पढ़ते हैं।   एक बार मेरे एक मित्र ने कहा कि मुझे अपने ब्लॉग में जोक्स और कहानिया डालनी चाहिए।   किसी ने कहा आज युवाओं को रोजगार के अवसर के या मेडिकल, इंजीनियरिंग, बैंक्स के कम्पेटीशन्स के साइट्स के लिंक्स चाहिए,  जिसके डालने से मेरे ब्लॉग पर आने वाले लोगों की संख्या प्रति दिन हज़ारों में हो जायेगी।   मैंने अपने उन मित्रों को समझाया कि मैं सिर्फ भीड़ इकट्ठी करने के लिए नहीं लिखता।   मेरे लेखन का एक मकसद है, लोगों के साथ अच्छी, विषय-पर्यक एवं तार्किक सोच को साझा करना, उनके साथ भावनात्मक रूप से जुड़ना, और ये तभी संभव है जब मैं अपने लेखन की गुणवत्ता को बना कर रखूँ और इसके लिए मैं सदा तत्पर रहता हूँ।  मुझे ओरिजिनालिटी बहुत प्रिय है इस लिए मेरी हर संभव कोशिश यही होती है कि मैं जो भी लिखूं मेरी खुद की रचना हो और अभी तक मैंने इस पर कभी कोई समझौता नहीं किया है।  

आप सबको शायद मैंने कभी देखा भी न हो,ना पहचानता हूँगा मगर फिर भी आप सब लोगों ने मेरा उत्साह जिस तरह बढ़ाया है और मुझे उत्तरोत्तर अच्छा लिखने को प्रेरित किया है, इसके लिए मैं आप सबको सहृदय धन्यवाद देता हूँ।
========================================================== मित्रों यदि मेरा यह पोस्ट आपके दिल को जरा भी छू कर गुजरा हो तो मुझे विश्वास है कि आप मेरे इस प्रयास को लाइक दे कर मुझे और भी अच्छा लिखने की प्रेरणा, स्नेह और आशीर्वाद देंगे। आप अगर मुझे मेरे फेसबुक प्रोफाइल पर फॉलो करते हैं तो आपको मेरे शेयर किये सारे पोस्ट्स आपके नोटिफिकेशन्स में मिलते रहेंगे।

एक सलौनी सी गुड़िया

एक सलौनी सी गुड़िया 
चाँद सी शीतल 
हृदय से चंचल 
रूप में बरखा 
करुणा की सरिता ।

खन-खन करती जिसकी आवाज़ 
कर दे जो दिल के कण कण गुलज़ार 
जागती तो लगे जैसे कोई परी हो 
सोती सी लगे जैसे मंदिर की देवी हो ।

मन के इस उजाड़ आँगन को 
बरसों के सूनेपन को 
कब से है इंतज़ार कि 
दिल के अंतरंग तरंगों को छूने 
आँखों में बसे अनंत सपनो को मूर्त स्वरुप देने  

होले से वो आएगी ।

एक बार खुल के जीने को 
फिर हसने को हसाने को 
इन आँखों को मुस्कुराने को 
इन होठों को गुदगुदाने को 
इन लब्ज़ों को गुनगुनाने को 
खुशियों की दौलत लुटाने को 
वो आएगी 
हाँ वो आएगी !!

========================================================== मित्रों यदि मेरा यह पोस्ट आपके दिल को जरा भी छू कर गुजरा हो तो मुझे विश्वास है कि आप मेरे इस प्रयास को लाइक दे कर मुझे और भी अच्छा लिखने की प्रेरणा, स्नेह और आशीर्वाद देंगे। आप अगर मुझे मेरे फेसबुक प्रोफाइल पर फॉलो करते हैं तो आपको मेरे शेयर किये सारे पोस्ट्स आपके नोटिफिकेशन्स में मिलते रहेंगे।

तुम हो भी या नहीं !

किसी ने मुझमे इंटेलेक्ट ढूँढा, किसी ने ढूँढा इंटेलिजेंस। 
किसी ने मुझमे स्मार्टनेस ढूँढा, किसी ने ढूँढा टैलेंट। 
किसी ने मुझमे दौलत ढूँढा, किसी ने ढूँढा सक्सेस। 
किसी ने मुझमे पावर ढूँढा, किसी ने ढूँढा प्राइड।  

काश कोई होता जो मुझमे ढूंढता मुझको। 
एक सरल हृदय, एक प्रेम की गागर। 
छोटी सी आशा भरी निग़ाहें। 
अल्हड़ बादलों सा मंडराता 
निश्छल सादगी भरा एक मन। 

हाँ यही तो हूँ मैं 
न जान सका कोई 
पहचान सका कोई।  

ग़र हो तुम कहीं 
तो कहाँ हो तुम 
आवाज़ तो दो मुझे 
कि तुम हो भी या नहीं !

========================================================== मित्रों यदि मेरा यह पोस्ट आपके दिल को जरा भी छू कर गुजरा हो तो मुझे विश्वास है कि आप मेरे इस प्रयास को लाइक दे कर मुझे और भी अच्छा लिखने की प्रेरणा, स्नेह और आशीर्वाद देंगे। आप अगर मुझे मेरे फेसबुक प्रोफाइल पर फॉलो करते हैं तो आपको मेरे शेयर किये सारे पोस्ट्स आपके नोटिफिकेशन्स में मिलते रहेंगे।

Kinley's new ad and a social message associated to it

Kinley Ad in which a girl apologizes to her father calling him on mobile that she is in Lonawala that night with a friend while she lied him that she was going to her friend for studying. On asking why she was telling all this then, she says as she is not able to sleep because she lied to her father and then her father tells her to take care of herself.

Well, such things are very common now a days, young teenagers and those in early twenties often lie their parents and go for excursions and short trips with their girlfriends/boyfriends staying at hotels for a night or two away from their hometowns making excuses breaching the trust and hope their parents have on them doing some wild experiments where hardly there is any scope of escape. I know many such cases. For those who reside in hostels, it becomes very easy for them to wink in the eyes of their parents. Later on such decisions lead them to repent a lot for future. It's always better for these people to take their parents into confidence before going for such wild endeavors. Well the ad has rightly recognized that youth class and tried to woo them with a social message.

========================================================== मित्रों यदि मेरा यह पोस्ट आपके दिल को जरा भी छू कर गुजरा हो तो मुझे विश्वास है कि आप मेरे इस प्रयास को लाइक दे कर मुझे और भी अच्छा लिखने की प्रेरणा, स्नेह और आशीर्वाद देंगे। आप अगर मुझे मेरे फेसबुक प्रोफाइल पर फॉलो करते हैं तो आपको मेरे शेयर किये सारे पोस्ट्स आपके नोटिफिकेशन्स में मिलते रहेंगे।

Chakravyuh - a wonderful movie highlighting the Naxalite problem

Watched movie 'Chakravyuh' of Prakash Jha. Prakash Jha is one of the best directors who raises the socio-political issues on the cinema screen very effectively.  His attempt always remains towards bringing the real issues that our country is witnessing on the fore. Shool and Gangajal are some of his movies I greatly admire.  Rajniti was probably his last hit.   Chakravyuh is again a movie in which he has depicted the plight of poverty, the life of the poor in remote villages, and the disparity of income among rich and poor that has resulted into naxalite movmement that has taken hundreds of districts of many states of our nation in last few decades since our freedom.

This is a story of two friends, one a Superintendent of police and the other who is his childhood friend who both meet after a long gap.  The former sends him as an impostor to the naxalite group to get the inside information and in the process wipe it out. But reaching in that group, how a police informer's heart changes looking at the real issues which from outside hardly one can understand and that is how he becomes the commander of the group after police tortures the women and children and arrest the erstwhile leader of their group. He becomes even dreaded for the police then.  The scenes are mind blowing and there are some of the moments that really shake you from inside and sometimes even make you like crying. You would be compelled to think why our country is grappling with such imbalance? Why have we failed to make an inclusive growth? Why more than 70 percent of our population as quoted in this movie has been rendered to live their lives on less than Rs. 20 a day. Why????  Why a friend kills his own childhood friend? Why our own army has to fight with our own people? Why thousands of people have been killed in this fight for years? Any answers please..

========================================================= मित्रों यदि मेरा यह पोस्ट आपके दिल को जरा भी छू कर गुजरा हो तो मुझे विश्वास है कि आप मेरे इस प्रयास को लाइक दे कर मुझे और भी अच्छा लिखने की प्रेरणा, स्नेह और आशीर्वाद देंगे। आप अगर मुझे मेरे फेसबुक प्रोफाइल पर फॉलो करते हैं तो आपको मेरे शेयर किये सारे पोस्ट्स आपके नोटिफिकेशन्स में मिलते रहेंगे।

Can a colleague be as close as your friends during your study years?

One of my colleagues recently commented, "It's not easy to find a true friend among colleagues."  I too want to explore this opinion of his.  Friendship is something we know we don't have to have a formal way of expressing the things to each other. If you are true friends, there is no mutual commitments that you need to have.  It's a personal choice of yours and if you don't want to be friends with someone, you can back out any time you wish.  But if the bond of friendship is strong, it will pull you back to him or her.  

Now let's come to the colleagues or co-workers.  It's true till the time you started working you had already lived early part of your youth in schools and colleges and in all probability in a group of friends you did all informal, naughty, crazy and weird things.  Surely you must have got those friends during your school and college phases.   But that was say for twenty five yours of your life. You still have to lead your next fifty years.  Your friends till your twenty five when you are now in your thirties, are all settled in their lives, they are now in jobs, they have their own families.  They mostly are in different cities.  Now you are hardly in touch with most of them since the times have changed and so did you.  Accept the reality and move on.   

Then what still is left with you.  Man is a God gifted social animal as we say.  Therefore, a rapport is required with the time to develop a friendship with someone, be it anyone.  It may be your co-worker, your client, your neighbour or the persons whom you meet at the jogging park in the morning.   But yes you need to realize they won't be your weird, crazy friends.  Yes you are now grown up and they too.  The child inside you is there to whom only those can understand who grew up with you and not all.  But then they don't have time for you now.  But those who you are with now due to your job commitments or otherwise have time for you but they can't know you that much as your school or college friends knew you.  If your expectations are that high, you would never be able to meet them now.  Yes there are some exceptions too.   

We talk about someone having married to his or her colleague.  That happens, but then this usually happens when they chose each other for the sake of marriage selecting each other out of many.  This is certainly not a friendship of colleagues.  It's meeting of two hearts but usually after long considerations of many other factors for securing good future and for convenience of being together at work and at home.   Therefore certainly it's a mutual give and take and so not in the same category that you find your friends in your early years of life.  Well as far as wife and husband should be true friends, I agree it should be.  Probably initially they don't happen to be but with the time as they grew up older they might become and those couples are really lucky.  I think everyone wants to have this kind of ideal relationship in his or her marriage.  

Well friends, reduce your expectations is the only medicine for those who are as emotional as I am as far as finding true friend at this stage of life is concerned.  At least your mind will be at peace.

========================================================== मित्रों यदि मेरा यह पोस्ट आपके दिल को जरा भी छू कर गुजरा हो तो मुझे विश्वास है कि आप मेरे इस प्रयास को लाइक दे कर मुझे और भी अच्छा लिखने की प्रेरणा, स्नेह और आशीर्वाद देंगे। आप अगर मुझे मेरे फेसबुक प्रोफाइल पर फॉलो करते हैं तो आपको मेरे शेयर किये सारे पोस्ट्स आपके नोटिफिकेशन्स में मिलते रहेंगे।

एक तेरा साथ हमको दो जहाँ से प्यारा है

अभी मोहम्मद रफ़ी साहब और लता मंगेशकर जी के गाये गीत 'एक तेरा साथ हमको दो जहाँ से प्यारा है' सुन रहा था।   मित्रों, यह गाना मेरे बचपन के सबसे प्रिय गानो में से एक है।   उस वक़्त ऑडियो कैसेट्स का दौर था।   मुझे याद है मैं घंटो कैसेट पारलर में खड़े हो कर मोहम्मद रफ़ी के गाने ढूंढता था।   एच एम वी  और ग्रामोफ़ोन कंपनी के कैसेट्स के पास ही ज्यादातर राइट्स हुआ करते थे ऐसे ओरिजिनल गानो के।   बस लालसा भरी नज़रों से देखा करता था, खरीदने के लिए जेब में पैसे तो होते नहीं थे।  किसी तरह पॉकेट मनी जो बचाई ज्यादातर ब्लेंक कैसेट्स ले कर गाने कॉपी करवा लेता था।  एच एम वी के ब्लेंक कैसेट्स में करीब १५ - १६ गाने कॉपी हो जाते थे।   फिर उनको दिन रात सुनना।   मुझ पर मोहम्मद रफ़ी साहब के गानो का जादुई प्रभाव है।   मेरे पास ऐसे दो सौ के आस पास कैसेट्स इकट्ठे हो गए होंगे।   मोहम्मद रफ़ी के बाद मेरे सबसे पसंदीदा गायक कलाकार थीं लता जी और आशा जी।  पुरुष गायकों में मुझे किशोर कुमार भी बहुत पसंद थे।  दूसरी तरफ मुझे याद है मुझे मुकेश के गाने बहुत ही कम पसंद थे।   पर ये मेरे बचपन की बात थी।   आज जब मुकेश को सुनता हूँ , ऐसा लगता है उनके जैसी परिपक्वता किसी भी गायक के आवाज़ में नहीं थी।   आज वही मुकेश मुझे बहुत अच्छे लगते हैं।   

मित्रों, मैंने ऊपर जिस गाने का जिक्र किया है उसका वीडियो या यह फिल्म मैंने नहीं देखा था।   आज यू ट्यूब पर इस गाने को ढूंढा और फिर पुरानी यादें ताज़ा हो गयी।  आज इंटरनेट के सुलभ हो जाने तथा यू ट्यूब जैसे साइट्स के उपलब्ध होने के कारण हर  हार्ड डिस्क में सैकड़ो गाने उपलब्ध होते हैं जिनके लिए अलग से महंगे कैसेट्स या डी वी डी खरीदने की जरूरत नहीं होती।    इसी क्रम में आज जब इस गीत के ब्लैक और वाइट संस्करण को देखा, मन प्रसन्नचित्त हो उठा।   गाने के दोनों अभिनेता काफी प्यारे दिखते हैं।   मैं दोनों को शायद पहली बार देख रहा हूँ क्यूंकि यह बहुत ही पुरानी मूवी का गाना है और इससे पहले इसका वीडियो देखने का सौभाग्य प्राप्त नहीं हो सका।   

शादी के बाद की पहली रात जिसमे दो अनजान लोग जब साथ मिलते थे तो उनके दिलों में जो प्यार के मीठे मीठे सपने होते होंगे उसको जीवंत रूप देता यह गाना सच में यह सोचने पर मजबूर करता है कि उस दौर के लोग कितने शांत, सुशील और शर्मीले होते थे।   दोनों ही कलाकारों के चेहरे पर इनोसेंस देख कर मन मंत्रमुग्ध हो जाता है , वैसे भी यह गाना रात के सन्नाटे में अकेलेपन में सुनना एक अलौकिक एहसास कराता है।  मुझे हमेशा से ये महसूस होता आया है कि रफ़ी साहब और लता जी दोनों के जिह्वा पर माँ सरस्वती विराजमान होती थी तभी उस दौर में ऐसे दिव्य गाने बनते थे।   

========================================================== मित्रों यदि मेरा यह पोस्ट आपके दिल को जरा भी छू कर गुजरा हो तो मुझे विश्वास है कि आप मेरे इस प्रयास को लाइक दे कर मुझे और भी अच्छा लिखने की प्रेरणा, स्नेह और आशीर्वाद देंगे। आप अगर मुझे मेरे फेसबुक प्रोफाइल पर फॉलो करते हैं तो आपको मेरे शेयर किये सारे पोस्ट्स आपके नोटिफिकेशन्स में मिलते रहेंगे।

रेल का सफर - भांति भांति के लोग और कुछ अविस्मरणीय यादें

मित्रों, मैं पिछले दिनों अपने माता-पिता के घर पटना गया था।   हावड़ा स्टेशन से जन शताब्दी ट्रेन में बैठ पटना के लिए रवाना हुआ था।  अक्सर ट्रेन में आपने देखा होगा कि आपने जो बर्थ बुक की होगी, कोई न कोई आपसे उस बर्थ के लिए रिक्वेस्ट करके आपको किसी और जगह बिठा देगा।   ख़ास कर तब जबकि आप अकेले सफर कर रहे हों।   बिल्कुल ऐसा ही हुआ इस बार भी।   मित्रों इस ट्रेन में सिटींग अरेंजमेंट होती है, स्लीपिंग बर्थ नहीं होती।   एक अधेड़ उम्र की महिला अपने बेटी के साथ सफर कर रही थी उनके कहने पर मैंने अपनी सीट चेंज कर ली किन्तु मेरे उस दत्तक सीट पर एक उन्नीस-बीस साल का लड़का बैठा था।  उसके बगल के सीट पर उसकी हमउम्र महिला मित्र सफर कर रही थी।  मैंने जब उस सीट के बारे में पूछ ताछ की तो पता चला की वो लड़का बस उस लड़की को सी ऑफ करने आया था।  खैर मैं ट्रेन स्टार्ट होने तक उनके बीच व्यवधान पैदा न करना ही उचित समझ एक दूसरी खाली सीट पर बैठ गया।   मित्रों यह सफर करीब आठ - नौ घंटे का होता है।   मगर आपको इसमें इतने भांति-भांति के लोग मिलेंगे कि आपको यह सफर इतना उबाऊ नहीं लगेगा।   इस बार तो कुछ ऐसा हुआ कि मैंने सोचा इसे मुझे अपने पाठकों के साथ जरूर साझा करना चाहिए।  तो मित्रों, लीजिये मेरे साथ आप भी मेरे इस सफर का आनंद उठाइये।

मित्रों ट्रेन में काफी भीड़ भाड़ थी क्यूंकि दुर्गापूजा की छुट्टियों में सब लोग अपने अपने घर जा रहे थे।  जिनकी रिजर्वेशन कन्फर्म थी वो भी और जिनकी कन्फर्म न हो सकी थी वो भी।  उनमे से कइयों की जिनकी कन्फर्म सीट थी उन्हें लड़ झग़ड़ कर अपनी सीट खाली करवानी पड़ रही थी क्यूंकि उस पर पहले से कोई बैठा मिलता था।  खैर आये दिन ट्रेनों में यह सब दिखता आया है इसमें नया कुछ नहीं।   नया तो अब ये भी नहीं रहा कि मेरे उस दत्तक सीट पर बैठे लड़के का हाथ अपने हाथ में लेकर उसकी प्रेमिका उसकी आँखों में डूबी प्यार के हिचकोले खा रही थी की तभी अचानक ट्रेन ने सिटी बजाई और फिर उस लड़के को ट्रेन से उतरना पड़ा।   खिड़की से भी लड़की ने लड़के का हाथ ऐसे पकड़ा था जैसे कि छोड़ना ही न हो।   भाई यह देख कर हमें भी हमारी पुरानी यादें ताज़ी हो गयी।   खैर ट्रेन स्टार्ट होने पर उस लड़की को अपने प्रेमी को विदा करना पड़ा।   तभी एक तीस-पैतीस साल की महिला अपने हाथ में भारी सा बैग लिए हुई पहुंची और हमारे ही रो में उस लड़की के दूसरी साइड (विंडो) की सीट की तरफ इशारा करते हुए वहाँ बैठे एक दूसरी महिला को वहां से उठने का निर्देश दिया।   फिर थोड़ी जद्दोजहद के बाद वह सीट उस महिला को मिल गयी।  तो मित्रों मैं उस रो में दो महिलाओं के साथ बैठा था।   एक उन्नीस-बीस और दूसरी तीस-पैंतीस की।  अब दोनों महिलाओं ने बात-चित शुरू कर दी।  देखते देखते दोनों के बीच चाची-भतीजी का रिश्ता कायम हो गया।   अब इसमें मुझे संदेह है कि क्या सचमुच दूसरी महिला को पहले वाली से ऑन्टी कहलाना अच्छा लग रहा था।   मैं बोर हो रहा था तो अपने मोबाइल फ़ोन के साथ बिजी होने का असफल प्रयत्न करने लगा।   तीन चार घंटे ऐसे किसी तरह निकाल लिए।

ट्रेन जसीडीह स्टेशन पहुचने वाली थी।   तभी देखा एक व्यक्ति ट्रेन के दरवाजे से लटक कर पास की विंडोज पर बैठे लोगों से पुछ रहा था कि विंडो से पानी किसने फेंका।  किसी ने ना कहा और किसी ने उसको कोई रिस्पांस नहीं दिया।   जैसे ही ट्रेन स्टेशन पर रुकी, वह प्लेटफार्म पर आकर हर विंडो पर जा कर पूछने लगा की पानी किसने गिराया।   जिसके हाथ में बोतल दिखा उसकी तरफ इशारे करके पूछने लगा कि उसने ही पानी गिराया है।   तो मेरी पड़ोस के पड़ोस में विंडो साइड पर बैठी महिला से भी उसने बकझक करना शुरू कर दिया।   महिला ने उसको समझाने की कोशिश की कि लोगों के पास पीने का पानी नहीं है वो पानी क्यों गिराएंगे ?  फिर मेरे पड़ोस की युवा महिला ने उस व्यक्ति को कहा कि क्या उसने किसी को पानी फेंकते देखा है?  हम सबने इस बात का समर्थन किया।  इतना सुनते ही वह व्यक्ति तैश में आते हुए कहने लगा कि अगर उसने देखा होता तो उसका गला पकड़ कर ट्रेन से बाहर निकाल लेता।  इतना सुन कर लड़की को काफी गुस्सा आ गया और कहने लगी की उस व्यक्ति को कोई तमीज नहीं है, औरतों से कैसे बात की जाती है।  फिर वह व्यक्ति हम सबको ललकारने लगा की निकल बाहर साले हम यहाँ के लोकल हैं।  हम लोगों ने कहा की वो आदमी ड्रिंक किये हुए है और उससे जुबान लड़ाने का कोई फायदा नहीं।  इधर ट्रेन भी खुल गयी मगर लड़की का गुस्सा सातवें आसमान पर था।   उसने भी माँ बहन की जितनी कॉमन गालियां हैं सब एक के बाद एक देनी शुरू कर दी।   फिर उसने कहा की वो पहचानता नहीं कि वो लड़की किस खानदान से है अगर उसके पापा को पता चला तो खड़े खड़े उसका मर्डर हो जाएगा।  पुरे बॉगी के लोग उसकी तरफ ही देख रहे थे।  लड़की की हाइट मुश्किल से ५ फिट होगी, बिल्कुल दुबली पतली, मगर आवाज़ और गुस्सा उफ़।   खैर मुझसे रहा न गया, मैंने उसको शांत कराने की भरपूर कोशिश की।   उसे कहा की जिसने गुस्ताखी की वो तो चला गया, उसने तो तुम्हारी ना गाली सुनी, ना ही धमकी।   हां तुम्हारे गुस्से को इस बॉगी के सारे लोगों ने जरूर देखा।   धीरे धीरे उसने इस बात को समझा और नार्मल हुई।  

मित्रों, बिहार में आपको ऐसे लोगों से आये दिन सामना करना पड़ सकता है।   ऐसे लोग अक्सर गरीब, मध्यम वर्गीय, निराश व कम पढ़े लिखे व्यक्ति होंगे।   लड़ना झगड़ना शायद उन्हें अच्छा लगता है , वे आपको अपने लेवल तक ला कर आपको बेइज्जत करने की कोशिश करेंगे।   ऐसे लोगों के कभी मुँह नहीं लगना चाहिए।   एक और बात जो बिहारियों में काफी सामान्य है चाहे वो जितने भी पढ़े लिखे हों, और वो ये क़ि वे अपने आप को अंडरवर्ल्ड का डॉन से किसी तरह से कम नहीं समझते।   यहाँ मैं डिस्क्लेमर देना चाहता हूँ क़ि यह बात हर बिहारी पर लागू नहीं होती।   मित्रों मेरे इस ट्रेन जर्नी में कहानी के दोनों मुख्य पात्र इस बात को सिद्ध करते दिखते हैं।   तो चलिए अब मैं कहानी को आगे बढ़ाता हूँ।

लड़की को समझाने के दौरान मैंने अपने वाक् कला का परिचय दिया जिससे प्रभावित होकर वह मुझे अंकल अंकल कह कर सहज तरीके से सम्बोधित करने लगी।  तो मित्रों उस लड़की के एक तरफ बैठी उसकी मुँहबोली ऑन्ट और दूसरी तरफ मुँहबोले अंकल।   बातचीत का क्रम आगे बढ़ा।   उसने बताया कि वो अपने मम्मी पापा से मिलने महाराजगंज (सीवान ) जा रही है।   उसके पापा कांट्रेक्टर हैं और उसका बचपन कालिम्पोंग में बीता है।   उसकी स्कूलिंग कालिम्पोंग में ही हुई है।   अभी वह प. बंगाल के एक इंजीनियरिंग कॉलेज से बी.टेक कर रही है।   अभी उसका पांचवा सेमेस्टर चल रहा है।  

मित्रों मैंने अक्सर २० - २५ वर्ष आयु वर्ग के लोगों को अपने से करीब दस वर्ष बड़े लोगों को अंकल या ऑन्ट कहते देखा है।  शायद उनके पर्सनालिटी का एक हिस्सा अपरिपक्व रह गया है ऐसा मेरा मानना है।   ऐसे लोग व्यवहारिक नहीं होते और उनके अंदर आत्मविश्वास की कमी पायी जाती है।   ऐसे लोग अपने आस पास व रिश्तेदारों या माता-पिता पर बहुत ज्यादा आश्रित होते हैं।   ऐसे केसेज में अक्सर इन बच्चों से ज्यादा उनके माता पिता का दोष होता है जो उन्हें हमेशा खुद पर आश्रित बना कर रखते हैं।   मैंने उस लड़की के उस कमी को पहचानते हुए इस बात को समझाया।   उसने मेरी बात को धैर्य से सुना और माना कि मैं ठीक कह रहा हूँ।  फिर वह मेरे साथ काफी फ्रेंडली हो गयी और अपने बारे में बहुत कुछ शेयर किया जो लिखना चाहू तो यह आर्टिकल काफी लम्बा हो जाएगा। इसलिए मैं रेलवेन्ट बातों को ही साझा करूंगा।

उसने मुझे बताया कि वो लड़का जो उसे छोड़ने आया था वो उसका बॉय फ्रेंड है।  लड़का बंगाली है और उसके क्लास में ही पढता है।  उसने यह बात अपने घर में किसी को नहीं बतायी है हालांकि वो उससे ही शादी करना चाहती है।   मेरे ये पूछने पर कि उसने यह बात अपने घर में क्यूं नहीं बताया है, उसने बोला कि घर में यह बात मालूम होने पर उसकी पढ़ाई छुड़ा कर घर में बिठा देंगे।   वह राजपूत है और राजपूतों में दूसरे जाति में शादी करने की सोचते भी नहीं, प्रेम विवाह तो उसके खानदान में बहुत दूर की बात है।   उसने यह भी बताया कि उसके खानदान में वो पहली लड़की है जो बाहर जाकर अकेले रह कर इंजीनियरिंग कर रही है।

मित्रों, मैंने अक्सर देखा है ऐसे केसेज में जहाँ जहाँ लड़के लडकियां अपने कॉलेज में प्रेम तो कर लेते हैं, माँ-बाप की नजरों से बच कर काफी नजदीकी सम्बन्ध भी बना लेते हैं किन्तु परस्थितियाँ दोनों को जुदा कर देती हैं।   कभी जाती-पाती तो कभी स्टेटस और कभी गोत्र।   खैर मैंने उस लड़की को जिस तरह उस लड़के के साथ चिपके देखा था ट्रेन में उस भीड़ के बीच, यह तो समझ आ गया था कि वो उसके बहुत क्लोज आ चुकी थी, मैंने उसको समझाया कि वह प्यार की सीमा को समझे और समय का इंतज़ार करे।   जब वो दोनों जॉब में आ कर सेटल हो जाएँ तभी घर वालों को बताएं और शादी के बारे में सोचें।   इस बीच हर घंटे वो अपने प्रेमी को फ़ोन करके उसका हाल चाल ले रही थी।   उसके पापा का भी बीच बीच में फ़ोन आता था कि उसकी ट्रेन किस स्टेशन तक पहुंची।   उसके पापा उसी रात अपने पर्सनल कार में उसको पटना से महराजगंज ले जाने वाले थे।

खैर मेरा सफर तो इस तरह गुजर गया मगर इस दौरान मुझे बहुत कुछ देखने और समझने को मिला।   आशा है मेरा यह लेखन आपको पसंद आया होगा जिसमे मैंने कुछ ऐसे प्रश्न चित्रित करने कि कोशिश की है जिनका निराकरण अभी बाकी है।   एक परिवर्तन का दौर है - पुरानी और नयी सोच का एक टकराव है।   बदलते दौर की मांग के अनुसार माता-पिता को भी बदलने की जरूरत है, समाज को बदलने की जरूरत है और हां युवाओं को भी धैर्य रखने की जरूरत है,   सही और गलत में फर्क करने की जरूरत है वरना अच्छी खासी हसती खेलती ज़िन्दगी बर्बाद होने में देर नहीं लगती।   जय हिन्द मित्रों !

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A historical week that made seemingly impossible tasks possible

This week is historical for two reasons - First for our own Mission Mars that successfully reached the Orbit of Mars. Nothing much I would like to say on this as you must have read in depth what it means. This is something that we could not have dreamed even a few years ago. I would not say this is something this current government should be given the credit of. In fact it's something that we achieved after a long journey of our scientists and engineers who strive for this day and night around the year to make India a superpower in Science and Technology, specially space technology. All scientists at ISRO and allied institutions deserve special applause from the countrymen for the achievements they have made and put India in the league of top five nations.

Well the second one is also equally important. The Supreme Court's decision on Coal-gate scam will have far reaching effects. I don't know what pluses or minuses would come due to this decision. On one hand Government of India will have windfall gains when it auctions the 60 coal blocks so cancelled on current rates. On the other hand, immediately those who held these coal blocks would suffer badly as their investment in those blocks are quite heavy. Also they had taken big loans for the development of those blocks as we understand. Indian PSU banks have around 10 to 12 percent of their total credit to Power Sector including coals. Now already beleaguered Power Sector dealing with huge debt crisis would not be able to get enough coal to meet their production requirements for at least a year till the auction process of coal blocks is completed and further productions are started from those blocks and so supplies are resumed to this sector. Many more companies including the big ones are going to default their loans to these PSU Banks. Banks would suffer immensely due to this which is already facing the problem of higher NPAs and the sword of meeting the BASEL 3 Norms. This new crisis is again adding to their woes.

Well, overall environment in industry in the short term would be hugely regressive. But we can still have some positives from this. Rule of law prevails. Transparency will come and so investor confidence will return in few months. Things will improve and only honest and genuine players would return to business and those who were just involved in changing hands would take lessons from this.

Wishing all the best to our corporate honchos!

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Himalayan Tsunami - Doom's day is not too far!

Rs. 51000 Crore would be required in next five years for installing sewage treatment plants for the 118 cities situated on the bank of river Ganga, as submitted in Supreme Court by our Government. You can just imagine other costs involved in cleaning. However at least 15 years would be taken for the completion of this project. I am really confused where we stand. For the sake of development, we polluted our rivers, the water of which we drink, our air that we breathe.. Once again for cleaning them we require much more money and resources than we actually got out of it in return. Is this endless development that takes so much from us so necessary? After all a human being needs what? Food, shelter and cloth the basic amenities to survive, education, some entertainment and family and friends. Nature has given us so much with which we can sustain for centuries. Then for what are we making such a race with each other? What are we targeting to achieve? We saw Kedarnath Tragedy last year, Kashmir tragedy this year. Very recently in the newspapers I read that such natural phenomenons will frequently invade us. We have exploited our nature too much without conserving it. Now it's time for us to pay, nature is paying us back.

I hope everyone of us must have read about 'Himalayan Tsunami'. We are sitting on this time bomb that can blast anytime. Himalayas are still very active and young. Earthquakes are common features in these regions. Very recently a group of geologists and mountain climbers from India and Nepal met in this connection where they highlighted the fact that now Himalayan peaks are slowly losing their snow because the dust and other such particles are sitting over these snow and so making the surface temperature warmer and in the event of rains, they start melting unlike before. As a result many peaks which remained full of snow for the full year are losing snow for a large stretch. The melting of snow has created several lakes on the high Himalayas. Some of the lakes as mentioned in the report are as large as of 2 kms.in length and 1 km in width and around 70 meters in depth. This is one of many such lakes created in the recent few years. Now in case of any severe earthquake, these lakes may burst and the water will flow down to the planes and this will be devastating even for the planes in north India and Nepal. One such example we have already seen in Kedarnath, that was not even due to earthquake. The devastation due to earthquake may be multiple times severe than this one. We are doing nothing in this regard. That's our least priority to protect our environment. Already severe damage is done. I don't think now this process is reversible. We shall just wait for this doom's day.

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Chinese prez's veiled threat of a regional war- are we prepared?

US, Israel and EU are natural allies to India. India is surrounded with powerful nations who don't want to see India developed and at peace. Their politics, their foreign policies are always designed against Indian interests. India needs to secure its borders from all sides and in case war is waged on India from more than one sides, it would be difficult for India to counter that effectively given the size of military and other forces of China including their advanced defense technologies. In this event, it's always prudent to have defense ties with powerful nation like USA and other NATO forces. We can't take another loss of our territory in the hands of China or Pakistan. The way China is threatening us by its acts, it is now imperative. We need to understand the realities and boost our preparedness for such wars. Congress could not do it for the sheer reason of their appeasement politics compulsions. BJP does not have any such things under their sleeves. I urge the think tanks in the government and its agencies to give it a serious thought and do such diplomatic agreements, so that China and Pakistan could not dare to think of a war with us. But this does not come free. That also we have to understand, if US, Israel and other EU nations support we require, we need to support them also on important forums, specially those which are in our interests as well. We had continuously gone against Israel despite knowing the fact they are suffering the menace of terrorism just like us. We supported those nations who speak at UN and at other forums in favour of Pakistan when it comes to the issue of Kashmir. This way we find nothing but alienate the powerful nations of west. Israel and its neighborhood are destined to be at war with each other and so there are mass killings, bombings and human rights violations. But as a matter of fact, we cannot take the side of those countries in Israel's neighborhood on the Human rights violation ground as our political and foreign policy compulsion should be borne in mind while dealing with such issues. The same nations to whom we take sides on the ground of human rights, they blame us for the same violations on the issue of Kashmir. It's sheer nonsense. We have to look at prosperity of our people which can only be ensured if the development is ensured and that can be done only if our boundaries are secure and we are allowed to remain at peace.

======================================================================== मित्रों यदि मेरा यह पोस्ट आपके दिल को जरा भी छू कर गुजरा हो तो मुझे विश्वास है कि आप मेरे इस प्रयास को लाइक दे कर मुझे और भी अच्छा लिखने की प्रेरणा, स्नेह और आशीर्वाद देंगे। आप अगर मुझे मेरे फेसबुक प्रोफाइल पर फॉलो करते हैं तो आपको मेरे शेयर किये सारे पोस्ट्स आपके नोटिफिकेशन्स में मिलते रहेंगे।

You were my first idols.

I don't have a good memory friends.   But today I got some of my memories refreshed.  Then I was in Class VIII.  It was a new school I was admitted to.    A big school having many buildings adjacent to each other,  several boys and girls, big class rooms, play ground, many teachers, king size Principal's chamber, fleet of buses, mustache bearing tall and dark security guards to whom we feared a lot and girls and boys hostels.  So we were having two groups in the classes, hostel boys and girls and day boarders.  As usual, day boarders were more disciplined than the hostel boys and girls.   Well after the first semester exams, when the result came to my hands, I was in the top ten, probably seventh if I remember it correctly.  Then the First and second positions were grabbed by Ravi Chandran and Raj Kumar Bhagat.  I was the youngest boy in that lot, by height, by age and by looks. I want to share some strange facts of my school time.  I have been promoted from Class IV to Class VI and again from Class VI to Class VIII, thanks to my father who thought me a genius and schools also agreed to such proposals.  So I did not study Class V and Class VII.  And I feel I lacked something that I did not read in those classes.  After all the syllabus, the books teach you what you require step by step in all these classes.  Anyways naturally most of the guys were at least two years older to me at that time. Bigger guys mostly used to make fun of the younger guys.  On the other hand, teachers liked me more because of my age factor.  Well coming to the two names I mentioned earlier.  They were genius.  They were fierce competitors.  But Ravi Chandran came first again and again in Class VIII.  I wanted to take his position but I could not for lack of my skills at that level.  I feel he deserved to get better than me.  While Ravi had a good personality, an outspoken, cheering fellow, adorable among girls, Raj Kumar Bhagat was more studious kind of, docile and very frugal in speaking.  I was more close to Bhagat since he was of my kind.  He helped me solving the questions, he was very supportive.  I learnt not only how intelligent he was, but also the humility with which he handled his success.  I admire him for all this even now.  Bhagat came first in the final exam of Class VIII and from then, he never looked back.  Ravi Chandan used to came second since then.  I improved a bit and was usually fourth or fifth most of the time.  That was a Section of around hundred students.

Ravi and Raj I have learnt several things from you.  I could never reciprocate you since I was very young then.   But we never met again since we left the school.  But if you can read this message anyhow, do contact me.  I know you would be better placed than me and you should be as both of you deserved this.  If I could meet you anytime, I know my eyes will be full of tears.. you both were my first idols.

======================================================================== मित्रों यदि मेरा यह पोस्ट आपके दिल को जरा भी छू कर गुजरा हो तो मुझे विश्वास है कि आप मेरे इस प्रयास को लाइक दे कर मुझे और भी अच्छा लिखने की प्रेरणा, स्नेह और आशीर्वाद देंगे। आप अगर मुझे मेरे फेसबुक प्रोफाइल पर फॉलो करते हैं तो आपको मेरे शेयर किये सारे पोस्ट्स आपके नोटिफिकेशन्स में मिलते रहेंगे।

What men want their women knew

Just like the ladies who possess lots of difference from each other, men too differ a lot.  Their expectations, their tastes and their moods depend on several things.  Some like docile kind of ladies with whom they can take the lead. And some really like to be dominated.  But again being dominated and allowing the partner to take lead are not always the same things.  Some men are really emotional.  If you want to know his real emotions, don't just go on his clingy words, try to read into his eyes, unspoken words tell you a lot.  Girls need to take time to understand a man.  Watch and notice him before falling for him.  Go by your instincts.  A true man is an asset for a girl in today's times.  If you find one, never let him go.  Both men and women want to have a partner with whom they want to mature with the time, to share their lives for decades.  But then probably they are not able to find the real partners and so, they mostly fail or compromise, the only two aspects that life throws upon them in case of wrong decisions.  Always remember two different individuals complement each other and so often two similar kind of people in nature, taste and preferences do have things like ego, competition, jealousy etc.  So accept the differences, in fact these are good for the long term relationship where you explore the new things in each other for long and it keeps the relationship going.  

Yes men like surprises.  They like their partners to do small things like moving around them like butterflies, looking into their eyes.  They want real expressions on your face.  Your true smile is one of the best energizers for them. They love hair ruffle, cuddling and canoodling.  They like to be hugged tightly.  Their partners have to make them feel that yes they are special for them.   

When a girl rustles up meal at dinner, their partners silently and pleasantly watch them doing so.  When a girl sings for his partner and when she talks emotionally in her God- gifted sweet sensuous voice, her man falls for her and incessantly look at her face willing to shower his love on her.  But they can judge if you are pretending.  So, be honest and true in your emotions.

======================================================================== मित्रों यदि मेरा यह पोस्ट आपके दिल को जरा भी छू कर गुजरा हो तो मुझे विश्वास है कि आप मेरे इस प्रयास को लाइक दे कर मुझे और भी अच्छा लिखने की प्रेरणा, स्नेह और आशीर्वाद देंगे। आप अगर मुझे मेरे फेसबुक प्रोफाइल पर फॉलो करते हैं तो आपको मेरे शेयर किये सारे पोस्ट्स आपके नोटिफिकेशन्स में मिलते रहेंगे।

Can ex-lovers be good friends?

There are some valid points in support and against of this. Actually it differs on case to case basis and individual to individual.  In my view, its a very complicated issue.  It depends on individual's own understanding level, the level of depth that they had in their relationships when they were together.  There may be hook-ups for a short time, and then if you are partying ways; it won't take you much to move on as the degree of intimacy in such relationship hardly reach to the level that it will let you go in deep pain; such relationship can turn into friendship but with some hiccups initially.  You may often have seen such things happening in your own circles, specially in case you are part of a group of friends where you may find one person who was hooked to one of the members initially and then the same person got hooked to some other member from the same group.  All the three members of the group know each other well so even after the end of their romantic relationship, the friendship continues.

Often in cases, where there was a depth in relationship and they were grossly involved to each other and then relationship turned sour, the degree of pain goes higher.  Newton's third law work here perfectly i.e. "Every action has an equal and opposite reaction."  And so, there may be situations when they don't want to see each other face to face let alone talking to each other.  So it's difficult to reconcile and move on as friends.  They simply can't.  As whenever they would try to do so, those memories would start playing haunting games. 

Thirdly, in case of common friends and situations where they knew each other for quite a long time, and they were friends before they came into a romantic relationship, and/or in cases where they are business partners, it's difficult for them to snap their ties even after the romantic relationship is over.  This is because of level of understanding they have developed over the years, and the common friends who still work as a bridge for them, and so although the romantic relationship is over, this may turn into good friendship given each other's need for the sake of smooth functioning of their business and also because they know each other more than anyone else does. 

======================================================================== मित्रों यदि मेरा यह पोस्ट आपके दिल को जरा भी छू कर गुजरा हो तो मुझे विश्वास है कि आप मेरे इस प्रयास को लाइक दे कर मुझे और भी अच्छा लिखने की प्रेरणा, स्नेह और आशीर्वाद देंगे। आप अगर मुझे मेरे फेसबुक प्रोफाइल पर फॉलो करते हैं तो आपको मेरे शेयर किये सारे पोस्ट्स आपके नोटिफिकेशन्स में मिलते रहेंगे।

Being good or being bad is often relative

Good and bad are relative terms. What's good or what's bad that is measured on different scales and tested on several parameters. Different customs or different traditions or different practices under different societies may have different views on what's good or similarly on what's bad. Just for an example, consuming alcohol or consuming non-vegetarian food may be good to some, but also may be bad for others. Even law makers in different states have different opinions, for some betting or gambling or consuming drugs is not a crime, but for some it's a severe crime.

Now let's talk about the human perception towards a person. The same person for some,people may be good and for others may not be. Further two good people may not prove to be good friends, while we can also see that two seemingly people of different perceptions, means one good and the other bad may be good friends. A bad person may appreciate a good person for obvious reasons and also that some qualities that he himself lacks he finds in the other. Similarly a good person would not have the ego issues with the bad person and the former likes the later due to later's kind nature and good gesture towards him and the value or recognition that he receives from the later.

The gist of all the debate is that a person himself is good and bad both as all good and evil resides inside us. We may behave or react differently under different situations and under different company or different groups. For an example, we may be very disciplined i.e. good before our parents as per their expectations and bad to our hostel warden. Further company of bad people does not always mean that the person himself too is bad. Similarly company of good people for a bad person does not guarantee that he is good. Therefore a person should not be judged on one parameter or two. We should take time to know him completely before we make our opinion or give our judgement on him. But often we remain in so much of hurry that on first meet or on first look, we give our judgement on someone. That's our real weakness that we should free ourselves of. Often such judgement lead us take wrong decisions.

======================================================================== मित्रों यदि मेरा यह पोस्ट आपके दिल को जरा भी छू कर गुजरा हो तो मुझे विश्वास है कि आप मेरे इस प्रयास को लाइक दे कर मुझे और भी अच्छा लिखने की प्रेरणा, स्नेह और आशीर्वाद देंगे। आप अगर मुझे मेरे फेसबुक प्रोफाइल पर फॉलो करते हैं तो आपको मेरे शेयर किये सारे पोस्ट्स आपके नोटिफिकेशन्स में मिलते रहेंगे।

Discover the different worlds - make friends, for friendship knows no bars

'Queen' - Wonderful movie, loved to watch this!  Specially the way the four roommates turned friends on a vacation, that too from different nationality, different language and different ethnicity.  How they connected to each other touched me to the core.  

Life has several things to offer to us.  Visiting different corners of the world is one of them.  Under our budgets and limits, we must try to visit newer places and learn the experiences of different worlds.  This not only widens our perspective towards others, but it also gives us an opportunity to let others know and change their perceptions towards us.  Life is a journey, whether you live it or not, it will end the day its time is over.  

Knowing someone from different culture, making friendship with them and having fun together is altogether a different experience.  Persons from different culture, ethnicity or language may become good friends, this movie has tried to convey this to us.  In all corners of the world people are there who are friendly having good hearts, good sense of humor, demeanor and respect.  Sometimes I feel India is such a big country with such a big population that many tourists get attracted to it by this very thought - it makes India unique. They want to see Indian culture, the diversity that we have.  They want to see our life style, they want to taste our foods.  They want to see our beautiful mountains, beaches, forests and historical monuments.  But when they reach here; they find beggars, vagabonds, brokers, cheats and bluff masters.  From Rickshaw-pullers to guides, from street hawkers to priests - all seem to be after them just to make money by crooked ways.  

Recently I was on an official  tour to Delhi and so I stayed there in a hotel.  The hotel was full of foreign tourists.  I found at the reception hall that there was a counter for guiding the tourists staying there.  The person guiding them was an Indian gentleman quite professional in his job; he was speaking in fluent american English and telling each one of them to be watchful from the prying eyes of the cheaters, specially the Auto Rickshaw drivers, the agents and brokers roaming on the streets.  He also told them not to frequent much with the strangers in the wake of recent rape and assault cases and not to venture at desolate places.  He was right in his job to guide the tourists about the real danger they may face when they step outside the hotel.  To an Indian listening these things about us as a general remark will look quite insulting, but whatever he was telling was a true assessment of the facts.

Friends, let us put ourselves in the shoes of those foreign tourists who come to India with so much of affection and enthusiasm and then they are told to be watchful, not to frequent with an ordinary Indian.  Isn't it really shameful for us?  Due to some wrong people, all Indians are infamous. Let's change the way we think about foreigners. For many countries, the tourism is one of the biggest contributors of their GDP though they are much smaller countries than India and also they are not so much blessed by mother nature as India has been.  The income from tourism sector to them is hundreds of times more than India. We can imagine how much we lose due to such an image that Indians have got world over.  Their missionaries issue advisories to their citizens visiting India cautioning them against all the bad practices including cheating and physical abuses prevalent in India.

When we go to their countries to visit, do they treat us like this?, probably no.  Let's learn from them.  They come to India to know Indian culture, to know how an ordinary Indian despite so much of poverty tales, enjoy his life; how he remains happy in his limited resources.  But these tourists hardly find any scope to mix with us. They have the desire, but we let them have the fear of the untoward in their minds.  Recent incidents have propelled this notion in them towards us.  That's pity, really pity for all of us. 

Well, it's morning 4.15.  I don't know whether now I would be able to sleep or not.  But whenever I wake up late at night and have something brewing in my mind, I try to give it a shape in my writing.  I tried the same now; and now I would be relieved a lot that the itching that I felt for last few days to write something got completed in the wee hours tonight. 

Thanks my lovely readers and friends!  Keep living.. keep smiling.. keep loving.  Respect and preserve your fellow beings.. this planet is ours as well as theirs.

================================================================== ====== मित्रों यदि मेरा यह पोस्ट आपके दिल को जरा भी छू कर गुजरा हो तो मुझे विश्वास है कि आप मेरे इस प्रयास को लाइक दे कर मुझे और भी अच्छा लिखने की प्रेरणा, स्नेह और आशीर्वाद देंगे। आप अगर मुझे मेरे फेसबुक प्रोफाइल पर फॉलो करते हैं तो आपको मेरे शेयर किये सारे पोस्ट्स आपके नोटिफिकेशन्स में मिलते रहेंगे।

Metropolitan Cities - a great divide between the rich and the poor

Recently I was on visit to Delhi and Chandigarh for some official assignment. I was in a train from Chandigarh to Delhi and when the train left New Delhi station, I saw there were pool of garbage everywhere beside the railway track till a long stretch for some kilometers. There were many girls and small children in the middle of those garbage dumps.  They all were holding a bin bag over their shoulders looking for something that they could pick out from the garbage in their bags. They would sell those rags and earn a paltry sum for the entire day of work in exchange.  These rag pickers are common everywhere. But whenever I see those boys and girls I feel like they are destined to live their lives like animals.  These young girls and boys are vulnerable to various diseases.  Also almost all of them undergo sexual assaults and physical abuses by the anti-socials and vagabonds as they mostly happen to be orphans or children born and brought up on footpaths or slums. 

On the other hand now a days since we often read the reports of rapes and sexual assault on girls and women, one of the major reasons for this is that they are often made to go to defecate in open. I thought earlier that this was happening only in rural areas, but in the vicinity of Delhi, the capital of republic of India, this might be happening I did not think of earlier. But it's a reality I could understand during my journey. We often ignore the fact that a major part of our rural population migrates every year to metropolitan cities like Delhi and Mumbai. With the unbridled population growth and limited resources at the hands of the governments and local bodies, it is almost impossible for them to provide the basic amenities of life to this overgrowing population who just come there with big dreams, big expectations and to have a better life than what they had earlier at their villages. But how these families live there, we can't imagine.  Later on it proves to be a mirage.

There is only one solution to this problem - Population Control. Law makers need to do something concrete for this. Also the government needs to stop this bulk migration by providing employment to people in their own rural areas starting development projects at all states and those unrepresented areas from where maximum migration of such folks happen.

======================================================================== मित्रों यदि मेरा यह पोस्ट आपके दिल को जरा भी छू कर गुजरा हो तो मुझे विश्वास है कि आप मेरे इस प्रयास को लाइक दे कर मुझे और भी अच्छा लिखने की प्रेरणा, स्नेह और आशीर्वाद देंगे। आप अगर मुझे मेरे फेसबुक प्रोफाइल पर फॉलो करते हैं तो आपको मेरे शेयर किये सारे पोस्ट्स आपके नोटिफिकेशन्स में मिलते रहेंगे।

Damini - story of a lone crusader reminding that every home today requires one Damini

Watched the movie 'Damini' directed by Raj Kumar Santoshi just now.  It was released in year 1993.  I have seen this movie once when I was a young school going student but then I could not have fully understood the underlying message in this movie.  Friends we often have a tendency to count on the greatest movies of our times, and then we tell the names like 'Sholay', 'Mother India', 'Guide', 'Deewar', 'DDLJ', Munna Bhai MBBS', '3 idiots' and many such names among our Hindi movies. I don't think 'Damini' is put in that list.  But when I saw it today I feel like 'Damini' is class apart.  The stellar performance of 'Sunny Deol' in this movie is probably the best by any Indian Actor. The dialogue delivery, the action and the effect of the same on the audience that I could imagine, must be unparalleled then.  However there is no superhuman effort in this movie like those which are shown in Salman's or Rajnikanth's movies.  

The message in this movie is not just another story to fight against evils present in our society.  In fact it shows a common and honest person's call of her heart to fight against wrongs that are happening inside her own home and that's where she is not fighting with others, but with her own near and dear ones, and then when she has her everything at stake.  This is what puts this movie in a different league.  The dilemma of an Indian housewife to bring out the facts of what his brother-in-law and his friends have done to a hapless young maid at their home, or to silence the call of her heart has been truly reflected in this movie by this great director of our times. However she is not able to kill her inner voice and then she is targeted brutally by her own people for taking the side of the truth.  It's the movie in which she could crusade this fight single handed.  

Message is very clear.  Fight against wrongs even in our homes.  Society is created by our own homes.  When about our own children, siblings or other family members we can sniff that someone is going on wrong path, immediately intervene to correct them.  Don't hide their faults.  Let the truth come out so that he or she doesn't repeat that mistake.  Such things should be nipped in the bud and if in every home we have one 'Damini', this world would truly turn out to be a crime free and evil free adobe for us.

======================================================================== मित्रों यदि मेरा यह पोस्ट आपके दिल को जरा भी छू कर गुजरा हो तो मुझे विश्वास है कि आप मेरे इस प्रयास को लाइक दे कर मुझे और भी अच्छा लिखने की प्रेरणा, स्नेह और आशीर्वाद देंगे। आप अगर मुझे मेरे फेसबुक प्रोफाइल पर फॉलो करते हैं तो आपको मेरे शेयर किये सारे पोस्ट्स आपके नोटिफिकेशन्स में मिलते रहेंगे।

Man is not born to be old - be the agent of change

It's not so important to change others as this may be a very difficult proposition.  But it's far important if we could change ourselves.  It would be a gradual process, but let's be ready for this.  That requires lots of courage as you need to be open minded to listen to others, to logically weigh the things and the happenings around you, to be far more practical, to learn everyday from everyone and everything you come across and above all being compassionate to all.  Don't make a hard line ever, be flexible, be gentle and be compassionate.  That doesn't mean you don't have to disagree.  Take the call of your heart, if it says no it's wrong, you must disagree there.  You will feel satisfied and self inspired.  People will automatically follow you.  This is how the cycle goes but wait change is persistent, it's a gradual process and we have to be active participants in this change, in fact agent of this change dedicating our entire life to this.  

Yesterday while conducting a training program, when I interacted with the participants there, some of them said they are in their late forties or fifties, why should they learn all these new things now at this age?  But friends here we do the mistake.  I have seen people who are just going to retire, they are at the age of sixty and even those who have retired, but still I find they are too active, always ready to learn new things.  Why it is so, it's because their mindset is different.  They are ordinary people like us but they never thought that life at sixty stops functioning normally.  It is this very thought that we allow coming in to our minds that now as we are aging, we should be content with what ever we are doing and nothing new should be dealt with, and for newer things, it should be learnt by the younger lots and not by us, that let us become passive, disinterested and physically and mentally old.  Remember, Man is not born to be old till his senses are working.  I hope you agree friends!

======================================================================== मित्रों यदि मेरा यह पोस्ट आपके दिल को जरा भी छू कर गुजरा हो तो मुझे विश्वास है कि आप मेरे इस प्रयास को लाइक दे कर मुझे और भी अच्छा लिखने की प्रेरणा, स्नेह और आशीर्वाद देंगे। आप अगर मुझे मेरे फेसबुक प्रोफाइल पर फॉलो करते हैं तो आपको मेरे शेयर किये सारे पोस्ट्स आपके नोटिफिकेशन्स में मिलते रहेंगे।

Rape and sexual assault on women and children - how can India curb these barbaric acts?

Friends, for last about two to three years, there is an unprecedented surge in reports of rapes and crimes against women and elderly people.  Even the crime against toddlers has increased to an alarming scale.  No day has passed through my eyes when I have not read a case of rape or grave sexual assault on women and children in newspapers for last few years.  I feel there is an urgent need of intervention by our government of taking some urgent steps which hitherto not that much thought off.  Our government should be prepared for widespread criticism in implementing these as many people from inside and outside of the government will find their lives difficult in imposing these as their self-interests may hurt.  Let me give you my suggestions in this regard point by point.

1.     Moral Science should be made a compulsory subject to be taught at each level of classes till higher education.  Students should be aware of their duty towards the nation and its citizen.  They should be made aware of what is civil wrong and what they need to do in case someone is in distress.  They should be taught about our laws and constitution at least related to an ordinary citizen for their rights and duties.  For this a panel should be constituted that would frame the syllabus for all the classes.  There should be practical classes as well where the students need to be familiar with those who are deprived and need care, like visiting and giving voluntary services to orphanages, old age homes, hospitals and trauma centers etc.  Passing this subject with a minimum percentage of marks should be made necessary for getting any certificates, diploma or degrees.

2.  At least one year of compulsory services to National Cadet Corps should be ensured so that every student could inculcate the values of patriotism and community services.

3.  Violent and Sexual Contents on Television, Movies should be blocked immediately.  In the name of freedom of media, no such things should be allowed to be produced and screened before Indian audience.  There would be lots of hue and cry against this but that has to be stubbornly handled.

4.  Sexual Contents on Internet should be immediately banned.  These are now available to even eight year olds and have become major agents of moral degradation.  Make strict curb on Pornography industry and sale of porn discs.

5.    Dress codes should be strictly instituted in Schools, colleges, educational institutions and offices.  No men and women should be allowed to wear revealing cloths.  At public places also there should be restrictions on dresses. 

6.   Physical intimacy in public places like parks etc. should be immediately stopped.  Such things should be private affair and not in full public view.  But in the name of policing, undue inspector raj should not be started.  Instead the same should be handled judiciously and with human face like calling their parents and handing them over.

7.   The way Hoardings and billboards are being used for commercial purposes, every crossing and areas of public interest should have moral building slogans and the dos’ and don’ts on these billboards so that these prove a guideline for the citizens.  There should be toll free numbers to contact authorities in case of distress.

8.  Drug paddling, human trafficking and illegal prostitution are one of the major threats to our society.  There should be stringent punishment for these, and capital punishment if a person is found to be involved in such activities on twice or thrice occasions irrespective of the gender of the culprit.    

9.  Check points should be made near pubs and restaurants where the level of alcohol should be tested among pub visitors in cases where they find any suspicious or unruly behavior.  This should be strictly implemented. 

10.   Only licensed owners should be allowed to trade in Alcohol sales.  The time of the sale should be only for few hours and not for the full day and night.  The quota of Alcohol sales should be fixed for each of the dealers.  All illegal hooch centers should be abolished.  Again there would be much hue and cry against this as very big sharks are involved in this who have their connections with bigwig political parties and even the ministers.  But the government has to implement this forcefully.

11.  The states which ban the liquor sale should be rewarded for the same with more developmental grants by Center.

12.  Prostitution should be legalized in order to curb the human trafficking and mushrooming of such activities even in civil societies.  Brothels should be licensed and the sex workers should be given Identity Cards.  The number of additions and exits should be monitored closely.  This department should come directly under the purview of Women and Child development Program.  Their offices should be opened in every district of our country.  Any new additions should be reported to the agency controlling these.  Those involved in these trades should be discouraged by providing them alternative jobs.  If still someone wants to do it voluntarily, allow them to do so.  Service Tax should be imposed on customers of such brothels. 

13. Law implementing agencies including police and administration should have a human face for the sexual assault victims and all assistance should be provided to them including registering the case against the culprits and security to the victims.  CC TV and Video recording facilities should be made compulsory for all police stations for transparency of the proceedings there.  All police stations should have a specialist doctor who would do the tests on the victims without many hassles. 

14. Counseling centers should be opened in every government and private hospital and health center.  Specialized people should be posted who would counsel the sexual assault victims.

Friends, these are some of the suggestions I put forward for our policy makers and Government agencies to ponder on.  I know many things I might have left.  But to start with I think my suggestions may be appreciated in this regard. 

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