One of my colleagues recently commented, "It's not easy to find a true friend among colleagues." I too want to explore this opinion of his. Friendship is something we know we don't have to have a formal way of expressing the things to each other. If you are true friends, there is no mutual commitments that you need to have. It's a personal choice of yours and if you don't want to be friends with someone, you can back out any time you wish. But if the bond of friendship is strong, it will pull you back to him or her.
Now let's come to the colleagues or co-workers. It's true till the time you started working you had already lived early part of your youth in schools and colleges and in all probability in a group of friends you did all informal, naughty, crazy and weird things. Surely you must have got those friends during your school and college phases. But that was say for twenty five yours of your life. You still have to lead your next fifty years. Your friends till your twenty five when you are now in your thirties, are all settled in their lives, they are now in jobs, they have their own families. They mostly are in different cities. Now you are hardly in touch with most of them since the times have changed and so did you. Accept the reality and move on.
Then what still is left with you. Man is a God gifted social animal as we say. Therefore, a rapport is required with the time to develop a friendship with someone, be it anyone. It may be your co-worker, your client, your neighbour or the persons whom you meet at the jogging park in the morning. But yes you need to realize they won't be your weird, crazy friends. Yes you are now grown up and they too. The child inside you is there to whom only those can understand who grew up with you and not all. But then they don't have time for you now. But those who you are with now due to your job commitments or otherwise have time for you but they can't know you that much as your school or college friends knew you. If your expectations are that high, you would never be able to meet them now. Yes there are some exceptions too.
We talk about someone having married to his or her colleague. That happens, but then this usually happens when they chose each other for the sake of marriage selecting each other out of many. This is certainly not a friendship of colleagues. It's meeting of two hearts but usually after long considerations of many other factors for securing good future and for convenience of being together at work and at home. Therefore certainly it's a mutual give and take and so not in the same category that you find your friends in your early years of life. Well as far as wife and husband should be true friends, I agree it should be. Probably initially they don't happen to be but with the time as they grew up older they might become and those couples are really lucky. I think everyone wants to have this kind of ideal relationship in his or her marriage.
Well friends, reduce your expectations is the only medicine for those who are as emotional as I am as far as finding true friend at this stage of life is concerned. At least your mind will be at peace.
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मित्रों यदि मेरा यह पोस्ट आपके दिल को जरा भी छू कर गुजरा हो तो मुझे विश्वास है कि आप मेरे इस प्रयास को लाइक दे कर मुझे और भी अच्छा लिखने की प्रेरणा, स्नेह और आशीर्वाद देंगे। आप अगर मुझे मेरे फेसबुक प्रोफाइल पर फॉलो करते हैं तो आपको मेरे शेयर किये सारे पोस्ट्स आपके नोटिफिकेशन्स में मिलते रहेंगे।
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